It isn't long in most relationships when the honeymoon period ends and reality sets in. At the beginning of the relationship it was always a happy union, so glad to see each other, giving hugs and "hi's" and "I missed you's" which after a few months was followed by barely getting off the rump to welcome a person home.
"Home" is a funny word. It has so many meanings to everyone. When I think of home I think of warm hugs, love, a safe place, my inner sanctum where only those I want there are there. I never thought I'd view home as the place I wish I was going at the end of each day but, there were days like this from early on.
The newness, the honeymoon, the freshness all was traded for routine, comfort, not trying, not working hard and taking for granted. Admittedly, I settled right into all of this too. He made it so easy! This is the same guy that thinks it perfectly normal to come and pee in the bathroom while I'm showering or for me to pee while he's shaving. What happened to modesty and privacy? I'll tell you.. It went right out of the window with the rest of the formalities. HA!
Some may say I should have left early on, I must have been fooling myself to accept such a young man to be mature, experienced and ready to take on a serious relationship but I overlooked the part during the "get-to-know-you" ceremony where he said he'd only been in one long term relationship and that was for two years. Wow! Did I purposely overlook this, ignore it or was I being ignorant and naive? I'm sure it was a combination. I can assure you that i was fully aware of when I entered into this.
Before too long the arguments came and went. The lovemaking came and came. The make up sex was always the best. You can't beat the passion involved between a man and woman when they are helping each other physically get over the enormous argument you just had about who was taking out the trash this time. No my friends.. nothing beats make up sex.
We broke up and....
We started a new business! http://www.shop.com/QAG - please check it out!!
Are you currently unemployed? Are you bored? Do you think to yourself you could never go back to work to the same boring thing you've been doing? We felt the same way when we found ourselves unemployed. He's retired from the military (medically), I'm laid off and the more we talked, enjoyed our $50 outings, the more we realized we can never go back to a "9-5" type job. I felt conflicted sometimes too, I think anyone would but we just decided to save money here and there and invest in ourselves and invest in something we really believed in.
Here is the thing, we talked, discussed this for a long time, probably over the course of a couple of weeks and we just decided that if other businesses could be successful, why not us? Don't we deserve to at least have that chance? I don't think I've set unrealistic ideas about this but it's a minimal investment and the potential for a large return. We had to do it.
If you missed the sentence under Chapter 3, we did break up. He is slated to move out in a few months. It was within days that we were discussing this business venture. Call me crazy but, I'm giving it a whirl..